With my h, it is really important that I remember to bring up anything kind or thoughtful that he did as well as the bad stuff. On Tues I was really hurt by xyz, but on Wed he did abc and I felt loved. It could be any little thing...pour you a cup of coffee, hold the door, touch your hair, change the channel...whatever. (I do realize that you are living in sheer hell right now and there probably is slim to no good, but if you can find something it would help)