My T has gotten teary eyed on several occasions. Sometimes, it just perplexes me -- like he asked me to describe a typical day in my childhood, and then he gets TEARY about it -- and it was just a NORMAL day for me. I actually posted about that here because I just didn't get it.

Another time, I was talking about one of the times my mom was nice to me. I was in trouble and was supposed to stay in my room, but I was actually sick and I had to throw up and didn't make it to the bathroom before throwing up. I was afraid to leave my room, so waited too long. Anyway, my mom didn't get mad about the mess on the hall floor, she just helped me clean it up. My T cried about that, and was really angry, saying that the hardest part of hearing that was I didn't even know how sad it was. And I was sitting there, 'wait, what? How is that sad?' It wasn't until he asked me to picture that whole scenario with a different child that I realized it was pretty sad.

A few other times, he's teared up and it makes sense. I'm describing something horrible. What I'm realizing as I type this is that if I'm really sad, or crying, he DOESN'T cry. It's like he's concentrating more on my feelings. It's when I cannot or do not feel anything about what I'm talking about that he gets teary. Hmmm. I might have to think about that difference more. I wonder if it's some weird T trick, or if part of what makes him sad is that I don't even know that what I'm describing is sad, or abnormal (like the story from the first paragraph).

Oh, and once he teared up when we were discussing my transference issues. I was saying that I KNOW the boundaries of the relationship and won't stomp on them. I told him I love him in the 'I want you to have a wonderful life and a great career and I want you to be really happy' kind of I love you, and not the 'I have to have you no matter how much it trashes your life' kind of I love you. And he got all teary.