Harley47 I like your play on words. It's nice to talk about sex and laugh to.

My oasis this does seem to be a common issue. It's not the guys fault. Thats just the nature of the business. Society has programed men to believe differently, that is up to them to prove there ability. I've been married for 18 years. I've never come from sex alone. It always involves more. IT doesn't always happen and IT doesn't always have to happen. The process to getting there and letting someone give you the attention you deserve is often plenty. When you reach that point if it happens great, if it's a little O great, if it's a big O I don't know anyone who would pass that up. But big O's are hard to come by. Guys make a big deal out of O's. I think guys have to have them and they don't always take alot of effort. For women take oodles of effort and sometimes as a woman it's nice to just enjoy and not be bothered by the big O. I do understand preformance anxiety. It's difficult to know that the out come for you is going to affect someone else more than it does you. My H and I run into that alot. I have preformance anxiety. There is a remedy for preformance anxiety but we are not talking about lowering inhabitions right now.