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Originally Posted by Shayatanica
Being physically or psychologically taken advantage of is a lot more complex than most people really care to imagine. Even if you KNOW that you like something, you can often lose control of your reaction because you hit some sort of subconscious nerve. It involves a ridiculous amount of trust & knowledge of your partner. Especially when you have a past with abuse, which we often do... It can be a healing experience to have positive emotions attached to what previously traumatised you. But in a joking context -- there is not enough depth in the relationship or act itself to be a healing experience.
And also, keep in mind, warming up is important. Being hit too hard too quickly can create a fight or flight reaction. : )
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Something i've been thinking about today is that several of my doctors have asked me if I have been raped--a gyno who failed to inform me what was going on during my first examine and I ended up crying really badly because it hurt, my T, and my pdoc have also asked me. I don't know why. I was never raped or sexually abused, but I guess they see something in me that's very flighty when it comes to sex.
As for what happened, she wanted to be hit as hard as she can (and I had a hard time doing that), and she wanted to hit me as hard as she can. But it wasn't supposed to be sexual, it was just supposed to be funny.