I'm just going to add a bit about the car situation - having an infant and no car can be very, very tricky. They need special car seats and are very vulnerable. If you are going to give up the car for awhile (and I agree on setting a specific date and having it signed and on paper with his signature), make sure you will be capable of providing for your child's needs in this situation.

When I talk about putting the needs of you and your baby first, that means in all things. I know what it's like to get used to putting another first, and if you still love him then it can be very tempting to give in to him on some things. The person you need to absolutely put first is your daughter though. Before making any huge decisions, always take a moment to consider how it's going to affect your baby. Don't be afraid to bring up her needs either when discussing who gets what. I think it's usually a good idea to keep things amicable, but if it requires a fight then do what you have to in order to secure yours and your daughter's futures. I would not rule out filing for abandonment at this point.

You really are doing great so far. I think even though you're extremely hurt, going through the steps to move on with this shows just how strong you are deep down. It just takes awhile to switch thinking patterns on these things. It may become easier to understand it all once your child is born though. Keep it up. You're going to be a great mommy.