I am sorry you are going through this. I think you will need to find another T, and I wish she would own up to her ethics violation and recommend that. I try to protect myself from this by not knowing anything about my T. I have never asked a personal question and if a thought enters my mind I try to remember that it truly does not have anything to do with MY therapy. She has great boundaries and does not bring up her issues. I have very rigid boundaries and do not ask. At times I do wonder if she truly can relate, but then think " my gyn is a man and he has never had cramps so.....". Not quiet the same but the point being the training is there. I also know that we would have absolutely NOTHING in common outside of the therapy room. Good luck to you.