Yeah, if your T is decent, he KNOWS about the elephant and he's waiting for you to be ready. My T said as much to me when I finally got to what I THOUGHT was the biggest secret ever. He was pretty much said that minute I mentioned CSA, he KNEW this subject was coming up eventually. I was kind of ticked and told him HE could have mentioned it two years ago and saved us a bunch of time. He said that it has been his experience that the few times he has brought it up first, the client essentially ran away screaming (inside their heads anyway).

So, your T is probably just waiting patiently for you to be able to talk about the elephant so you can banish it from the room.