PERNA you are exactly right. I am work threw this for my self . As a survivor of rape (repeatedly for 9 months) I also need to know why I accept this. I accepted physical and sexual abuse in the past and now I am accepting emotional abuse. What in the world is wrong with me. I have been married to this man for 18 years. There are improvements being made but it is so slow. Just when I begin to think everything is o.k. he plays with my emotions again. I know I am super sensitive. My since of physical boundries are not the same as others. It's hard to tell when I'm overreacting or if what I feel is accurate. Our marriage T is trying to help with that. But right now it is more of a stay or not and staying safe.

Any way thank you for your insight on this. It certinly gives me something else to think about.