I re-read your original post today. His behavior is indeed very odd, and if I were in your shoes, I'd be doing the same thing......wondering why. I'd be in total analytical mode mixed with extreme heartbreak mode. At some point, it would be interesting to know what his back round was like. I have to admit that I feel a little bad for judging someone that I do not know. I had forgotten how young he is. Not that that's an excuse, it could be a part of an explanation though. I remembered being that young. Looking back, I personally, was not a grownup. I think I started growing up about 25 years old. I apologize for allowing some of my own angry issues to leak into my messages to you. Of course, I do still believe he needs to step it up X100. My great grandparents married at 18 years old, and stayed married until my great grandpa died, but times were so different than they are now. From what you've described as him not making eye contact with anyone, all I can guess is that he is feeling very guilty, as he should. He is just a weak young guy. He may have just been putting up a strong front with you trying to make you and everyone else believe that he can handle marriage and parenthood. And he crumbled under the pressure. This is why I believe that the number one principle all people should follow is to be honest with themselves first so that they do not fool others into thinking they can handle things that they truly cannot. That is where his faults originated, and he proved what kind of a man he is by how he's handled the whole situation. That is why everyone is angry at him. He let everyone down, including himself. He could've handled things differently, but he did not. This is who he is now, and he is very ashamed of himself, I hope. If he wasn't ashamed, then I would wonder if he was a sociopath. He may not even understand himself, his behavior and his feelings, or he may have a very heartbreaking secret. It's hard to tell at this point. One thing I've noticed though, is that the truth always comes out eventually. It will be revealed to you when you are ready for it. You should be due any day now. I wish health and joy to you and your new baby. Is she here, yet?