Some of you know my ex boyfriend has bipolar and we broke up a little over 2 weeks ago (not for the first time) I learned he was bipolar about 3 weeks before we broke up and have learned a lot in the last month.

I do want to be with him, but I don't know if he's managing his illness right and I dont think he's seeing a therapist, just a psychiatrist for meds. He still smokes weed (and lies a lot) and I think he could also be BPD based on my reading, he also deals with anxiety. I'm a bit codependent.

I care for him a great deal and want to see it work out but I'm not sure the best way to lay down some new ground rules when we do talk. I've had some input from the bipolar spouse message board. I'm curious what you all think too.

I have no idea what he's done the past 2 weeks or who he's been with. He already tried to persuade me to come over. I can't let him back in that quickly. I have no idea his mental state at the moment and if he's stable or just being needy.

There is still a lot I don't know about him as he could never talk about all this for very long without getting frustrated or angry about it.