My 4yo daughter was Dx 2 years ago, and since then we have lost total control over her, nothing we do seems to help. Our family members keep telling us we need to be the adults and gain control and discipline her. Thing is we DO.. and nothing seems to work with her, reward charts, time outs, i hate to admit it, but I even had to spank her once because of running out in front of a car and I was so scared it was just reactive, and all she did was laugh and kept running around. Today we got kicked out of the library because of a tantrum... we have read and re read many books, have talked to "officials" and no one can help us curb her behavior and help us show her why her behavior is harmful to herself, and sometimes her little brother. It seems as if everything we do is erased when the attention moves on... It is affecting the family very drastically, her father has threatened to walk out, her brother had been hit in the head with things, and I feel like I am loosing control and I am so tired, both physically and emotionally from having to deal with this. Help anyone have any suggestions short of giving her away for someone else to raise (which has been suggested, and HELLS no she is MY child!)