I know so many posters are very angry and feed that emotion. But I still really feel this is all about a very young imature man who is very afraid of this comitment.
I think he looks down out of fear myself and shame and loss of direction in himself.
I don't think he doesn't love you. Men love differently then women, they just do and he was just not ready for this "having a child" to happen. He probably did not realize it himself.

Ofcourse you can't just "stop" loving someone and I am sure you are struggling with that right now, after all you DID love this young man. And the fact that his family doesn't understand it either, that is a big clue that they are out of touch with him.

What he really needs to do is spend time with a therapist, he obviously doesn't know how to verbalize his reasons for doing this. It just speaks fear to me. It is like he is thinking that if he runs before the child is born the fear in him will go away and it will be like he never commited to this to begin with. He is not thinking straight. I still think of his age and he is still a very young man.

I know that you are hurting, just keep focusing as much as you can on staying calm and giving this time. What your husband is doing has nothing to do with you being unworthy. This is all your husbands issues.

(((Hugs)))
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