I have almost completely ceased trying to explain things to 'normies', unless I sense they happen to be in a particularly receptive mood. Because, otherwise, they don't absorb a thing.

My husband is unfortunately one of those people who seriously doesn't listen to much that I say. It has taken him so long to become aware of what I actually deal with on a daily basis---If the situation had been reversed, I know I would have made it a priority to, A: Listen as much, and as often, as possible, whenever he felt like opening-up to me about anything, and,
B: Researching his illness as much as possible, in order to be more supportive when needed.
He has done neither of these things, although he is in every other way a pretty good listener (for a man! :P), and fairly kind.

When I do open up to him, it seems like my opinion matters little; and there is a widening gulf between us that I cannot manage to close, no matter how I try. That's happening because of how he gently but definitely dismisses just about everything I have to say, period. It doesn't really make it any easier when he's nice about it, either.

I do not understand that 'distancing' thing that people do, at all.

Sadly, my doctor is not a particularly good listener, either; I'm hoping to change that situation soon, too.

I am pretty cut off where I live; and that doesn't help much. For the most part, I only open-up to a few close friends, online.

I get how all of this feels.