I definitely get these messages as I think I need to suffer because of things I did wrong in my past. I think it takes a strong T to counter that. A T willing to stand up and present rather forcefully, an alternative view. A T willing to use every trick in his book to help you see things differently. I also agree with critterlady, that it helps to not quiet that voice but to tell T what it is saying. Because T can't help you change unless he knows what it is there to be changed. I think T has to be willing to walk in the tracks of our shame with us and not just push it aside. T has to be willing to "go there" with us.

I don't have a voice that says these things. I see the problem as me, not my T. I know T cares and would try hard to help if I let him. But it can be hard to work on healing when you don't think you deserve to be healed. So T has to be in on that "secret" if therapy is to work.