So are you in therapy? Are you trying to make this r/s work as part of a repetition compulsion?

You say you want HIM to know he can't do this or that to you. You are trying to be in control of a situation (repeating something from your past) - that's not having a r/s with a person.

You want to give him another chance not to disappoint you - wouldn't it be safer to work out that dynamic with a T, not with someone YOU characterize as a pot-smoking liar? Based on your other posts, you are a bright person who is selling yourself short - it takes one to know one.

Why don't you think you can get the kind of person you really want? Took me a really long time to figure out the answer to that one.