I empathize with you on this, stopdog cos like for the first few years, I would report back to T that I cleaned my kitchen, and he would sweetly say, "Doesn't that feel good now?" and I would practically jump out of my seat, also mad that he didn't remember it from the last time I cleaned my kitchen - 2 months previous - that it DOESN'T feel good to me, it's scary, it's tense, it feels like failure waiting to happen, and just entering the kitchen to begin with is horrible. NO IT DOESN'T FEEL GOOD YOU IDIOT!!! (addressed to T)

hmm, and here I thought I was over it, but I just got coffee and I have fruit flies again, so maybe not.

so I think the book quote above is stupid, REALLY stupid. obviously if somebody reacts like this, you've struck a nerve. like a dentist. they should keep probing. dig out the rotten stuff. replace it with something shiny white and impervious