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Originally Posted by sconnie892
But when I am not in such a bad mood, I realize that t is probably just checking that she understands what I am feeling. "That must have been very difficult" is a check to see if that is what I really meant and t is giving me the opportunity to confirm and/or explore that feeling. She's opening the door to see if I will walk through it or not.
But I get the adverse response to the empathy and like others have said it's not because I don't feel worthy of care.
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This is one of the reasons given in the books although there are several reasons according to books for them to do it. I have none of the predicted responses to it. I did enjoy reading their sample client responses and each time going "how the eff did that be the answer or response to that thing that therapist just said?"
I am particulalry baffled by the "I feel heard and that helps me" type of responses. And the ones about how the therapists attempts at "normalization" is sometjing the therapists think a client will find useful. I don't care if what I am describing is normal or not, even if it is, I still don't like it, or find it upsetting or whatever. The fact that it is the human condition or whatever is of little use to me.