I do not react well to normalization. I usually make faces that make T laugh. One time I was explaining that I don't like being the weirdo that organizes the plastic binned animals at Target. He tried to get me to understand why it was "okay" and I got SOOoooooooo frustrated with him. I wanted to change the behavior, not accept that it was DANDY and that it was not hurting anyone. Of course it isn't hurting anyone. Who the hell cares? It's still a problem behavior. Normalization makes me cranky.

I don't want to be understood, I want to get help fixing stuff that isn't right. This is why I am wary of T2 - I can tell he gets me, but I need him to start helping me come up with plans for change. He's still in passive-get-to-know-you mode. This is why I whine that I have to leave T1. T1 will challenge me whenever he sees an issue. I will miss that.