I think it is natural for us to question, how can a T help? because we never got that kind of help before, we only got aggravation and pain. And for an aunt to do this - a female relative - is just a double trigger. my T used to tell me to call him and I would just look at him and say, whY? what good can you do? how will that help? like does he think he's magic or something? it's just not in our vocabulary that someone else would help us. it's just not. but that's why we end up in T, because that's not natural. even mama monkeys help baby monkeys. just not ours. is your h still home? can you ask him to do the the absent mother holding exercise with you? but soft and cuddly, not too tight, not like your schools.

p.s. and if you don't tell her, how can she help you? she WANTS to help you, but she needs all the info.