stopdog, you may be actively "splitting". this is a defense mechanism T's usually try to eliminate. so maybe it is a good short-term solution, or it works in your "rare" case. but this is a) grief counseling and b) alishia says she is afraid her first T won't see her anymore. I think honesty and openness is the best policy here. a client shouldn't be "afraid" of confronting their T or anyone - that's what we go to T to become able to do. If Alishia isn't there yet, and ends up losing T1 and staying with T2, then good. If she just sees T2 for a while, and continues to see T1, also good. But feeling like you have to hide your real feelings? isn't that what caused all our problems to begin with? it did for me, just sayin' that's how I see it. que sera, sera.