Oh that's right. I think we've had this conversation before. Then I say, so why are you in therapy, if you validating you is enough. And you say, because a,b,c. And we are back to, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make her drink. Have you tried switching places with your T? Maybe you should try having some empathy for her. Just as an experiment. See what happens. My T says he is not impervious, btw. And how is T not "real life"? Are the laws of physics suspended when you enter the room? Time stops, there's no gravity, I really DO look like Brigitte Bardot, what?