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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
pbutton, I think we sometimes invalidate ourselves as a survival mechanism. It's easier to survive something if you convince yourself that it's no big deal. At least that is what I did, in addition to others invalidating me. Just kept telling myself it's not so bad. I can live through this. This is nothing really. I can live through this. It's no big deal; I was overreacting before. I can live through this. And I did, so clearly I was right and it was no big deal.  |
Yep, exactly right. This exactly describes what I did.
Just last week, T blew that "no big deal" out of the water on me. He turned some things totally upside down and gave them names that I'm struggling to accept.
He's only been able to do that because I was able to tell him things no one else knows. I was only able to do that because I knew he would empathize.