yabbut I get the impression she can hardly say boo to you and she gets accused of reacting, never mind overreacting. dr john has whole disks dedicated to "she said that must have been awful for you and I want to kill her now" threads

are you sure you don't just have some form of no-itis? I would automatically say no to everything my T said, unless he (verbally) conked me on the head first. I once told the FOO, "You guys disagree with everything I say!" They went, "No we don't!" I said, "Aha!" They were like, oh that didn't count...