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Originally Posted by Perna
You are 26 now, not 10. Your parents no longer count (if you are going to discount their experiences back "then" then you don't get to use back then as an excuse for what you are doing/not doing in your own life now, as an adult). They did their lousy job or did not do any job but you still have to learn these things and, if you think them necessary, I do not know why you are not working on learning them now. I'm glad you will be seeing a therapist. I would get any job I could, get a little money built back up, a way to get out of your parents' house you are unhappy in and then build from there.
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i agree but the problem is why i feel this way is i still seek a set of parents and i know that sounds weird as i told my therapist that. my parents have no experience themselves, so what is there to learn from them? a bunch of lies, terrorizing people, manipulating, making people upset and laugh about it, make up stories, etc, is that what i am suppose to learn?
i told my therapist how i hated seeing some of my friends who have good families can grow and learn from them whereas i couldn't. so yea, my therapist is gonna work with me on that probably might have me break away from that idea of "finding parents." i remember a cousin of mine whom i do not know lost her (she has a brother too) parents at a young age they were killed in a train wreck probably their dad killed their mother.
she is a cpl yrs older than me and i remember when i was younger, she told me and my mom in an email how she is still looking for surrogate parents because of how she lost her parents and my grandma raised her and her brother after their parents' deaths. i did that for 4 yrs in high school meeting people offline hoping i can find the same thing but found the wrong kind of people.
on the job issue, applied to everywhere and still nothing. i do plan on calling some temp agencies to make an appt to see if they can help me.