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such is life... · Jul 23, 2012, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys

Thank you such, that really does help.

Any tips to helping out internal dialogue?

It seems to only happen for me when I'm falling asleep I'll catch it and they are never talking to me but are talking to eachother. So when I'm trying to sleep I will try to ask them to talk, ask questions, but honestly I'm so tired and my sleep is so off, I'm desperate to just fall asleep so deep down I hope they don't start to talk. This is probably an issue, and I don't try that hard to be honest.

But I want to start working on communication, just don't really know how. Tried the journal approach but it never seems to work either... Any thoughts?

((((Purple Flying Monkeys)))) I have thought of you all day and racking my brain trying to come up with some ideas for you to start a rapport with your inside parts...uuuggggg....all I can come up with is practice and patience.My last T helped us start "internal meetings" with grown parts when "something wasn't right" I have a very vivid imagination and so I set up a "board" room for them to gather,with coffee or tea big comfy chairs , a large table and snacks and a TV... But that's hard to do. I think listening is the best route to go... if I have a part "going off" inside I have to listen and or write it down we have even sent our T emails .So I guess that's a good place to start listen to them and acknowledge their issues,like triggers, fears,body memories then write it some where and I guess what I'm saying is you need to get to know them and they need to get to know you before a dialog can start. I will give you an example from me....us...We have a part named Rebecca and her "job" was to keep "the candle burning 24/7 365 days a year."...but it caused us and her sleeping problems because she was scared that if the flame burns out something bad will happen to us so one of my protectors told her one night that he would stay awake and hold the candle so she could sleep....ohmygosh did she sleep so now we pass the candle around so that all parts can sleep,and Rebecca is no longer in fear of the candle burning out....my parts worked together or as my T says; "play nice " Any way I hope this will help you out some.....life...