hey. yeah i've found that with p-docs too. especially when there is an attraction there and it is really so very important to us that they not know that... lol. one thing i did one time... i had this session with my p-doc who i liked very much indeed... but i also had trouble because i would disagree with him a lot and stuff. i remember i was venting about how horrible my week was... and he was trying to be a bit soothing... and i was saying 'no it really is that bad' and i'd keep venting.

i sent him a card after that session. i started freaking that he wouldn't want to see me again so i got him this nice card and i wrote something like 'i just wanted you to know that i really appreciate your seeing me. i'm sorry if you left my last session feeling worse. i left my last session feeling better. i needed to vent. i feel better after venting. but i guess you don't know that unless i tell you and so i'm sorry if you left my last session feeling worse. thanks for seeing me'.

i sent it to him... he actually had slight tears in his eyes the next time i was him. he thanked me so much. i think it is important to do those things... my t who i loved so much... i never told her. i never told her how much she meant to me. i think it is important to try... by email or letter or something. it is hard... but i guess everyone likes to feel appreciated. and i guess... letting them know we appreciate them isn't really giving them power the way that really expressing our attachment is...