I have always resisted making the list. People kept saying it was a good thing to do but I refused for such a long time. A couple of months ago I finally did. It is a bizarre thing because I never ever look at that list but now alternatives come to mind a lot quicker. I think that just thinking carefully of things that would help in different situations--I made 3 lists one for work, home and at night--then writing it down helped to cement it in my head. Maybe it helped me to confirm the committment to stop.
Carrie

<font color=green>But the implicit and usually unconscious bargain we make with ourselves is that, yes, we want to be healed, we want to be made whole, we're willing to go some distance, but we're not willing to question the fundamental assumptions upon which our way of life has been built, both personally and societally.--Bill Plotkin, Soulcraft