You can always ask if you could email her. She can say yes or no. I found that it really did help me. I started with writing down what I had been struggling with and could not say, and gave my T the note, which he read. That was a huge turning point for me.

Some time later he eventually gave me his email address, and I often went home after a session and wrote what I couldn't say or hadn't been able to put together while I was there. It helped. Without it, I would have just been sitting there unable to talk about things (which I still did and still do), and might never have gotten it out, or just chatted about stuff that wasn't relevant.

Now I'm in online therapy with someone else, only meeting in person occasionally. It's not the same. It's quite different, in fact, and it does feel like it's missing something, but it adds something too because I can communicate that way when I can't face to face. It's a trade-off, and for me I think it's ideal to have it both ways. I wouldn't get anywhere without having the option to write what I can't say. But it's hard to maintain the connection with just writing.

I actually think it saves time for T because if it takes me 4 hours to write something, it would take me at least that long to get it out in person, and most likely I just never would. T can read it in half an hour or less, so that saves time for her that otherwise I would have wasted with my prolonged silences.

So, why not ask? And just write an old fashioned letter if you want to. There's nothing wrong with that.

Rap