yeah they said something similar to us in rehab also...

"get a pot plant...(not weed obviously) and keep it alive for 1 year." ... "then get a pet...(probably smaller than a horse yep) and keep it alive for 2 years, as well as the plant (so don't get an animal that eats the plant)... anyway thats 3 years now of being responsible and unselfish so then we were encouraged to consider being with someone.

hmmm...I still have my plant and I feed the neighbours cat.

I'm not too bad at the meeting person part....the breakup part, however, has always been a heartbreaking inevitability and I'm really not any good at the bit in the middle...thats where my BPD problems will outrun every other problem of mine and it will get me to the finish line all alone everytime...waaah!