Lou, your response was an eye oppener for me. Makes me very sad as it looks like its that way with my relationship, hes the enabler. And when im upset or hurt, he feels its HIS reslonsibility to make me feel better and when he cant he feels likea failure. And i do get upset when he makes plans with his (male) friends, even if im working when he goes. I dont mean to and after i feel worthless for feeling that way, but its not intentional, i want him to be happy and enjoy spending time with his friends. I just clearly have issues that need to be addressed with t.

Fishboi, coming from someone similar to your gf, im sorry. I can see how this can be hard. Is she in therapy? Perhaps you can both go to a few therapy sessions together so you can both express yourselves in a safe place with a third party out look?