No, and no. It's hardly a mysterious policy. Not being friends with clients is because there is work and there is one's life. Are you good friends with your lawyer? Your accountant? Your dry cleaner?

Friends come into our lives and we into theirs at a certain time over a certain period around a certain issue. You were friends with neighborhood children because you were in the same neighborhood, school friends because you were in the same class/school, work friends because you worked together, hobby and volunteer friends because you volunteered for the same group/cause. When whatever goes away, usually the friendship drops off too. My very very good friends from work, I haven't seen/done anything with for several years (I retired in 2005), all the "we must get together!" in the world can't do much with that. My high school friends I'd give my life for, I see them at 10 year high school reunions ((next will be 50th) we go and get a room together in the hotel the reunion is in; they're out of town, I'm not). One can't be friends with one's T during therapy, that would mess up the therapy and, afterwards, everyone is moving on with their lives which aren't similar unless you are another T, live in T's neighborhood, went to school with T, etc.

I know some of my good friends' deep dark secrets and they know mine too. My friends (family and work friends) know about my therapy, what I'm working on and why, etc. I share myself with my friends and family, that's one reason I was in therapy. When I am stumped about myself, I ask my husband to describe me, to tell me why he likes and loves me as I trust him and his judgement and he's articulate enough to do a good job so I have something to grasp and work with.