I've been seeing my T for six years and I've never cried in front of him. It took awhile but I finally figured out why. I trust him - he's a wonderful T - very warm, caring, empathetic - I'm able to be totally vulnerable with him. But he has a strict "no touch" policy. Which means that if I cried in session, all he would do is be with me, talk softly - no holding, no touch, no physical comfort. And this would be too close for comfort to the way I was treated, and neglected by my dad

The thought of crying in front of T, and having him sit and look at me, no matter how caring and empathetic he is, is more vulnerability than I am willing to open up to. So, sharing grief in session is probably never going to happen.