Lots and lots of time. Slowly, the little bits and pieces, the insights, add up. The trust in T builds - we shakily become vulnerable and shed shame. As we lose shame, our self worth rises. As our self worth increases, we're able to silence the negative voices, and listen to the positive ones, including T's, who is there, always encouraging, always supporting, always affirming our person hood. And we can believe him/her and take on this confident, joyful persona.