I wanted to be friends with my now exT so bad that she terminated me. She and her supervisor said that she probably had some counter-transference going on, but wouldn't elaborate on that. I still to this day think about her multiple times each day. I know so many ways of contacting her, but I don't want either of us to get into trouble. I always held back from telling her the dark stuff because I thought "I don't want her to know this just in case we ever become frineds when therapy is over." My current T, which is exT's supervisor, is great. I like her and she is friendly most of the time, but I don't want to be friends with her IRL. I have been able to open up and tell her dark stuff, so I'd feel really uncomfortable with her outside of therapy. And she just isn't my type either. We have tons in common, but I know we would have issues as friends.

My uncle is a pdoc and I told current T about it. She admitted that T's CAN be friends with FORMER clients, but once this happens, they can NEVER be your T again. It happens more than they will ever admit to lol. They use the "ethics" as an excuse to protect themselves. They don't want to deal with us outside of therapy, and I don't blame them one bit. She said that when I'm finished with therapy that we might "have coffee or something like that, but we can't be friends." I was sitting there thinking "Yuck! not with you!" I'd jump on that with exT, but not with current T even if my work with her was finished...