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Jul 24, 2012, 12:18 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Well, if you're REALLY SERIOUSLY thinking about a divorce, for one thing if you have a savings account, make sure you take out HALF of what is in there, or else HE will withdraw ALL OF IT. You are entitled to one HALF of all the money in the checking and savings accounts and any other monies you may have. So I would withdraw them ahead of time so that HE doesn't take them out without you knowing. My husband did that to me, and I ended up with no money!!
I would also get an attorney. You will need one to make sure that your best interests are taken care of. Now, I used a cheap lawyer in a mall -- but he STILL did a good job in seeing to it that I got EVERYTHING that I had coming to me. I got the house. we split one half of what the property taxes were; my husband had an inheritance -- I got one half of that because we'd been married 26 yrs; I didn't WANT his pension although I was ENTITLED to ONE HALF of that, but I didn't ask for it; I got custody of my daughter who was 17 at the time as she wanted to stay with me; I got the car -- he got the truck; That was about it. We didn't have any credit card bills or anything like that, so that wasn't a problem, thank God.
It sounds like your husband isn't really willing to "change" for the better, and wants to keep "ruling the roost" and scaring you half to death. That's not much of a life for you. Doesn't he realize what he's doing to you? He must be deaf and blind! I'm sorry Big Mama -- I wish he'd wake up and see what's happening. If the therapist is telling him he's a bully, you'd think he'd believe her! I wish I knew what to tell you. God bless, sweetie, and keep us posted. Hugs, Lee 
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