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Originally Posted by Towanda
I've been seeing my T for six years and I've never cried in front of him. It took awhile but I finally figured out why. I trust him - he's a wonderful T - very warm, caring, empathetic - I'm able to be totally vulnerable with him. But he has a strict "no touch" policy. Which means that if I cried in session, all he would do is be with me, talk softly - no holding, no touch, no physical comfort. And this would be too close for comfort to the way I was treated, and neglected by my dad
The thought of crying in front of T, and having him sit and look at me, no matter how caring and empathetic he is, is more vulnerability than I am willing to open up to. So, sharing grief in session is probably never going to happen.
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Thanks for your post, Towanda. This was exactly a reason that made it hard for me to be able to cry. My T does hug me at the end but said early on that she doesn't hug during sessions as a rule. After a session when I was so close to tears but couldn't I emailed afterward and said that one big obstacle to crying was that I'd feel so alone and vulnerable citing that she wouldn't comfort me. She let me know that while she doesn't hug people during sessions as a rule, she does make an exception if they are crying and if it would be helpful to them. So this obstacle is therefore out of the way for me, but still no tears... I really thought that this would be the clincher for me.