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Originally Posted by Genesis2012
I did feel a lot of shame and remorse about a relationship I had where I didn't behave so well, but the woman was a bit of a bully and after 12 years of that I was bound to act out a bit, I said goodbye to her last year, and will help her out where I can, I think we're both still trying to understand what happened.
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Genesis,
This is my worry with keeping contact with exes, no matter how long you have been with them. Exes have a really crappy habit of being horribly manipulative in one way or another, or just more apt to place blame than other friends in your life. I think because both of you came out of the relationship where it may have ended on a sour note, I believe that is what people hold on to in their subsequent encounters with that person. I hope that makes sense. I have noticed that with my exes who were serious boyfriends that I cannot maintain a friendship with them without either wanting to go back with them or wanting to fight constantly with them. This is also a part of our BPD traits... the more drama, the better. While I know nobody really wants drama, us BPD sufferers seem to thrive on drama at times. Well, I hope my little vignette helped a little. Thanks for letting me ramble!
