Dear Time0, It does turn the knife, and actually re-open the wounds, when people think they have something important and profound to say about your situation. Perhaps you can interrupt them with a "please, this is not the time or place to discuss this." Hopefully that will end it right there. I have had people say some very intrusive and just wrong things to me also, and it does hurt . I am glad you took off your "mask" for this posting.