Bighands, I get the feeling that your anger is in this more than your wish to save the marriage? Your telling your wife that she was on step 1 out of 2 million; really encouraging? Did following through on that thought of yours and saying it aloud make you feel better? I doubt it did your wife. Now you are reading about cr(l)ap on the internet and deciding to treat your wife as if she has cooties whether she does or not, etc. Were you concerned, I would ask her if she has been tested or felt the need for testing for her own health!

I get that you are very angry but what you feel and how you act are two different things! Right now it appears you are just acting out, trying to belittle and punish rather than work to get back together? When your wife said she'd do "anything" I hope she was not agreeing to put up with emotional and psychological abuse from you. Your wife acted in a way that hurt you; she and you cannot change that! But how you feel and how you act is your responsibility and dumping on her isn't going to help you get what you say you want? I would get in therapy for myself, work some of the anger through there and see what I could do to be a better man/husband or I'd say, "screw this" and separate.