I think one has to move on in one's own life and get interested in it instead of other people and their lives or what they are thinking, doing, in relation to us before we "get over" another. If you are going to go through with marrying, you should work on the marriage and making it the best you can for yourself and husband. You can only concentrate on one thing at a time and if you stay in your life now instead of the past or future, it gets easier.