Thank you all for your replies.

I have had to take care of myself emotionally from a very young age. I had to learn to soothe myself because if I voiced my sadness or illness I became a bother to my parents. So many time I heard "I don't want to deal with this now." So what I seek in people is for them to help me on an emotional level. I can deal fine with the day to day stuff. I could live just fine (perhaps even better) on my own because of my extremely practical nature. Lord I put 3/4 of my waitressing money I earned when I was 16 into a savings account and was still using it a year after I quit. It is the emotional stuff that I need help with. I don't care if people forget my birthday or don't send cards for Christmas. I am an extremely low maintenance friend. I will forget you exist if you don't talk to me in over a week. But when I reach out when I am hurting I need some sort of response. I suppose that is true for most people. It is just that when I am hurting I need to be cared for and when someone I reach out to fails to respond I crash emotionally. I become suicidal. And inevitably I pick people to reach out to who just aren't able to respond. It is funny because the response I need is minimal. Just a card or a call. I don't need them to fawn all over me, in fact I can't stand that kind of behavior. I just need someone to say "Gosh I am sorry you hurt, how about an icecream?" Sigh. Oh well. I usually forget about the whole thing within a week so I guess in the long run it doesn't matter to much. It would just be nice if once in awhile when I tell someone that my relative died that person would go to the card shop and get me a card.
Zen

<font color=green>The snow falls on no two trees alike, and the forms it assumes are as various as those of the twigs and leaves which recieve it...so one divine spirit decends alike on all, but bears a peculiar fruit in each--Henry David Thoreau