Desirae,

I know that you love this baby, and also that you don't have most of the control in the situation either. That would have to be so frustrating. Understanding that I'm a total outsider here, may I ask if anyone is thinking about what would be the best for the baby?

It has to be very confusing for him to be shuffled around and fought over. It's like he's a trophy that everyone wants to win, but what is in his best interest? Is there some way that he could have a stable home with two parents who both love him *and* are ready and prepared to be good parents?

If you and your husband were able to adopt him, that could be a good option since you do love him and it sounds like you would be prepared to be a mom. But you said that your husband won't let you take him home, so that unfortunately removes that possibility.

I don't know anything about the other girl who is trying to get custody. Is she married and in a position to be a parent?

Your sister just doesn't sound ready, and you don't seem to have confidence that she will be able to settle down in a committed relationship either.

There are plenty of couples who are prepared to have a family and want that more than anything in life. I hope you don't hate me for saying this, but what would really be best for the little boy? I hope, no matter what, that he will be able to have a stable, secure relationship with somebody he can always count on. Maybe that somebody will be you.

Best Wishes,
Rap