We all have roles in our families and many of us don't like them. For my sisters we have 1) apologetic, B/C student who is told she excels 2) the cute one with lots of friends, 3) the fat, happy one, and 4) me, the "fragile" one with As/Bs told not to talk about it because I could hurt #1. In many ways, our roles have remained through adulthood.