I like that you had a busy day and forced yourself to go out in the evening; you need to do that with your thoughts, too. It is very like an addiction? You have to treat the whole, not just the physical (busy day). Your head and heart have only known the habit of looking at/for the next "fix" so it is very hard now to think about anything else. I would make a plan, think about how you would like it to be; the two of you just chit chatting, catching up, like two regular women friends fond of each other but each with their own busy life; and about how you could become one of those women and work on holding that in your head and heart.