Yeah speaking it out loud doesn't really do much for me either. But from what I have heard from therapists (re: "what is next?") you are supposed to talk about it with your therapist over and over and over until you have "Processed it". I have no idea what that means though since I haven't experienced it. I assume it means until you have accepted it emotionally. Note: accepting it does not mean you agree with it, it means you just acknowledge that it occurred.

I have no idea if this helps or not, its just what i have heard that sprang to mind.