sounds like she is giving you room now. Use it. Use it to take each day, one day/moment at a time. Use it to find/create some times of peace throughout the day. Even if for each day you can find ten minutes of peace...

I can relate to a lot of what you wrote about. One thing that really helped me before was to constantly remind myself, "What's the worst anyone can do to me. What? Beat me up? Ha!" and I would repeat this in my mind over and over and it seemed to take the power that I gave to everyone around me away.