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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Ok, than it sounds like this is about what I had originally thought. This woman filled a void in your wife and it always confused your wife. It is very hard when a mother has emotionally "rejected" her child. The child suffers all their lives with this and this is true for both men and women.
Men (not realizing it) tend to pick the same kind of women in an effort to try to fill a void they never seemed to fill with their mother. If a mother is distant and aloof a man will be attracted to that kind of woman oddly.
As I said, this other woman was there for your wife at a time when she needed some serious nurturing. This woman took an interest in your wife and "listened to her" and provided a kind of "love and respect" that your wife needed. Unfortunately this woman was gay so it was not the same as a really good friend/mother type mentor your wife needed.
We have a situation that can happen with therapists called "transference"
and this is along the same line. A therapist can fill a void in their client and the client then becomes very attached to the therapist and can develope "even a sexual attraction" and it can even be "the same sex".
It can be that the patient is "not gay" as well but still struggles with a strong desire for the therapist. The patient can get very confused by this sudden "need" and "strong desire". What it can mean is that the therapist is filling a "gap or void" for the patient that they really "needed from a mother or father" in their childhood. They can say "oh my therapist really understands me like no one else" but that is what a parent should do as well that the patient never got.
 Open Eyes
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Thanks Open Eyes. You definitely understand my situation and I have thought about the therapist transference issue as well. That's on my ever-increasing list of things to talk and worry about since my wife seems to have this inability to prevent that malformed growth of emotion to people she has a close relationship with.
