Thanks everyone. I really need to look into the insurance stuff. It's all been so hard-dealing with lawyers, not having T, H unmotivated to find a job even though we are flat broke. And now on top of it-I'm scared I'm driving T away. What is wrong with me that I can't go a day without texting her? Like I want to text her to say sorry for bugging you so much-but I know that would not be wise. Perna-the way you describe as problems to be solved instead of a crisis-is very useful. Because that's why I've been in since April- a crisis mode. Maybe I do just need to view it as a problem instead.
Cobra would be $400 a month-I don't have that kind of money.

MKAC-thanks for the advice about the insurance. Call me stupid but I can't comprehend what it all means. I wonder if I can get insurance where I can pay just a little bit each month. I not sure how it all works.

Wiki thank you for your support in the midst of the crap you got going on. You are wonderful and I hope you can see that.

Kiki-thanks. I plan ti be very honest with T when I see her next week.