Good job rainbow!!!

I agree with many other posters that T is not withdrawing comfort. She initiated a hug; a very appropriate and gentle gesture that shows she cares.

You are doing really well trying to face this problem head on. I think it's a very good thing T is trying to teach you by using a physical representation of boundaries. I think those of us who have issues with boundaries have an urge to enmesh with other people; it's easier (at least for me) sometimes to just enmesh with another person. Then I don't have to deal with me.

Trust me rainbow, you and I are a lot alike and I empathize with you 100%. I know it's hard, so very very hard. I'm determined to make it though and the work you are doing shows me that you are too!