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Originally Posted by peaches100
(((((Rainbow))))))
I'm so proud of you! You are doing really well in facing this head on. I know it may feel to you like 'tough love,' but your t is remaining gentle and kind with you. She just doesn't want you to focus on the relationship SO MUCH that you avoid working on your other issues.
No, she didn't hold your hand. But she did initiate a hug at the close of your session. So she's not withdrawing her comfort. She's just stepping back a little bit to allow you to experiment with soothing yourself more. She is still "there" with you.
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I keep trying to post a reply but I get the message there are too many smilies. Then when I delete them, my reply is too short. That's why I'm doing it in parts, not all at once.
Yes, Peaches. You're right. I feel good that T asked me if I wanted a hug. It lessened my feeling of losing something I need from her. I know she's still there with me, more than any other T I've ever had. Thanks for reminding me.
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Originally Posted by Perna
I like that you had a busy day and forced yourself to go out in the evening; you need to do that with your thoughts, too. It is very like an addiction? You have to treat the whole, not just the physical (busy day). Your head and heart have only known the habit of looking at/for the next "fix" so it is very hard now to think about anything else. I would make a plan, think about how you would like it to be; the two of you just chit chatting, catching up, like two regular women friends fond of each other but each with their own busy life; and about how you could become one of those women and work on holding that in your head and heart.
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It's hard, Perna. I felt a little annoyed that my T so obviously "made us" chit/chat instead of holding my hand of letting me talk more about my relationship with her and feeling needy. Yes, I wanted my "fix" but I see that I was getting it. T IS trying to fix me so I will be happier!
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Originally Posted by geez
I'm so proud of you (((rainbow!!))). Think of not emailing her as being a 'workout'. It hurts at first but it does get easier. You are exercising a muscle that isn't used to be used.
Thank you so much for posting your session. I swear you were writing about me! (looking away etc..). I too hate the questions of where are you feeling it in your body! - I don't want to go there!!!!!!!
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Thanks, geez. When I look away, I think it's about disconnecting, not disassociating. I'm trying to be curious about that. I used to do that when I was young and didn't talk to my relatives. I just couldn't cope with the situation, so I tuned out but I was still there.
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Originally Posted by hankster
if it makes it any easier, there's a new word for it - the crotchal area  lots of really good postings here. people here are just so effing wonderful  not kidding |
Hey, the "crotchal area" is NOT what I'm thinking of when T asks me that question. Maybe some of the time. More likely, it's my bladder but I don't want to say that either. Well, I tell her "I have to go to the bathroom".
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Originally Posted by adel34
Hi Rainbow,
Sorry you had a rough session. It sounded very productive though and like you got a lot of good work done. Good job!
If I were you I would be struggling just as much. It's very difficult for me to comfort myself, so I would struggle with my therapist not sitting next to me holding my hand ETC. I would also struggle with not e-mailing her too.
Also good about the DBT program. Sorry there's a wait. There always seems to be a wait for everything. This one counseling place I found I would have to wait til august 15th just for an intake. Probably won't do that, but just amazing how in demand stuff is.
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Yes, waiting is HARD. I hope you find a counselor soon, Adel. Thanks for posting to me.